Somewhere along the way I picked up an ancient doctrine that well-behaved women don’t brag about their work.
I’ve seen it play out in various ways my own family–there’s a long-held tradition of apologizing for our cooking before we serve any meal, and I know I do it with my work before sharing it. I will mentally tear it down, quelling any satisfaction with the results that may lead to arrogance or delusion.
There seems to be this fear that being proud of something you’ve done makes you boastful, and by extension, unladylike.
I don’t know why I still observe this one custom– aside from birthing and breast-feeding two kids I haven’t clung to too many other “lady like” customs. I don’t own a dress that fits, I haul firewood, and I work a full day for a full paycheck.
So tonight, instead of trying to figure out tradition, I just broke with it.
I have a show starting at EquinoxVillage gallery in Manchester, Vermont on Thursday, and the big guy and I have spent the better part of the last two hours matting and framing my efforts for the last few months. The big guy has gone to bed–he has to get up earlier than I do. So I took a little break to lean the fruits of our labor is against the wall of my studio, and, for the first time in my life, I let myself feel proud of the work I’ve done for the last few weeks.
It’s not very lady-like, but is the old saying goes, well behaved women seldom make history, and I’m not sure if they make much art either.
The exhibit opening is at 49 Maple St. in Manchester Vermont and is scheduled for Thursday at 5:30 PM, is a free event and will include music and refreshments. my work will be showing there from the 18th of this month until 17 March.
5 thoughts on “Well-behaved Women”
Knock um dead kid.
You too, dude 🙂
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